Don’t ignore these subtle signs that your partner is cheating on you, warns a therapist

Beware of the bread of betrayal.

Evidence of a cheating partner isn’t always as obvious as a strange pair of panties on the floor, according to a first-time sexologist.

Bhavna Raithatha, a psychotherapist in the UK, is sounding the alarm about the subtle signs that your soulmate may be having an affair – including erectile dysfunction, a sudden increased appetite for sex, excessive phone use and a fuse shorter than usual.

Contrary to popular belief, for example, cheating spouses won’t necessarily say no to the nook, according to Raithatha, who is accredited by the British Association for Counseling and Psychotherapy.

One would think that offenders would have a lower libido, having allegedly fulfilled their carnal desires on the side.

However, sometimes they want to do it with their other half even more, because a relationship increases the lust to the point that they “become like a Duracell bunny”, the sex expert told the Daily Mail.

“Partners, who may feel temporarily guilty about it, redirect this increased sexual desire towards their current partner,” the extramarital sex team stated. “But it can just be a physical release to release tension — not emotional.”

Often times, a scorned woman can tell if her husband is cheating during sex – as they tend to go on autopilot without any “eye contact”, Raithatha explained.

Conversely, as many experts have pointed out, a spontaneous loss of interest in intimacy can also be a red flag — especially if one’s sex life was good before.

“For men, especially, they can experience some form of erectile dysfunction because the emotion just isn’t there, so they won’t be able to get it up,” explained the sex expert. “They will suddenly start making excuses not to have sex and the reason is because they want to be faithful to their new person.”

Another indicator of infidelity? If someone’s first is addicted to their phone.

Now, it can be hard to distinguish this from a normal phone addiction given our digital-saturated society, but Raithatha claims unfaithful spouses spend “so much extra time on themselves to the point that they don’t pay attention to their partner theirs”.

In fact, the former can range from leaving their phone out all the time to trying to hide it or accidentally entering a code.

Professional “honey trapper” Madeline Smith claimed guilty guys often leave their phones face down while watching TV or eating out.

But be careful how you deal with them, because this emotional distance can make scammers angry quickly, according to Raithatha.

“I’ve also had some clients who have then challenged their partners about it and they’ve become almost physically aggressive,” she said. “When they start slamming doors or putting their fists through plasterboard and becoming threatening, it’s to scare you into staying quiet.”

Then there is romantic gaslighting, defined by Raithatha as projecting one’s guilt onto the victim.

“They are the ones who are wrong to have the relationship, but they are blaming you,” she explained. “They are putting you under the microscope”.

“They might say things like, ‘Oh, you smell nice, you’re dressing nice, you’re eating better, why is that?’ Who is far?” added Raithatha, adding that this inquisition is often done in front of the boy’s friends.