My wife told my son to ‘get out of the picture’ at my stepmother’s birthday

A man has taken to Reddit to talk about his wife’s treatment of his child.

In the post, the man explained that the two had been married for eight years. She has four children from a previous marriage, and he has one – a 10-year-old son.

Although he said he has always done everything in his power to treat her children as his own and provide for their blended family, he said his wife has made no effort to do the same. thing and instead acts as if his son is “invisible”.

Finally, it came to his head and he is struggling with what to do.

“My heart broke at that moment”

“We were celebrating her daughter’s 11th birthday and everyone had gathered to sing and take pictures. I told my son to go in with the group for a photo, which was fine with me. But then, right after the group photo, my wife looked at my son and told him, ‘Get out of the picture, move to the side — I want one with my kids,’” he said in the post.

“I felt like my heart broke at that moment. I completely lost it. I told him that we should be a blended family and that my son deserves to be treated as his own. I feel like she’s drawing lines between ‘her’ kids and ‘my’ son, and that doesn’t sit well with me.”

In the post, the man went on to explain that his son’s biological mother died two years ago, leaving his current wife as his son’s only mother figure.

It made him wonder – was he asking too much for her to get up?

“I am terrified that this rejection on her part will hurt her deeply and cause psychological damage,” he said in the post.

“Am I asking too much for her to treat him like part of the family? I don’t want to overreact, but the way she ignores him is painful to witness.”

‘You’re not overreacting, you’re not reacting enough’

Many comments on the post blame the man for placing his son in an environment that is clearly toxic and unpleasant.

“You know this isn’t the first time she’s treated him like this. Do you know him since he was 2 years old? She is a horrible person,” said one commenter.

“So what’s best for your son. You’re not overreacting, you’re underreacting.”

“If she hasn’t grown up in 8 years, she never will.” [You’re the asshole] for subjecting your son to your horrible wife for so long,” said another.

“Your son is already hurt (and I’m sure he has/will have psychological problems) from your wife’s rejection. Don’t fool yourself. You must protect it! You’re failing as a father right now, so get it together,” chided a third.

“This is not something you can change just by asking your wife to get on board with it. You should never have married someone who didn’t love your son in the first place. Your son comes first. Even in front of your wife.”

“You have to take him out of the picture”

Others were kinder to the poster, arguing that his expectations for his wife are not too high. However, they all agreed that they had to leave.

“Holy cow! I’m very sorry. If she asks your son out of the picture, you need to take him out of the picture,” one person said.

“You are [not the asshole] and you have every right to be upset.”

“That sounds terrible. I can’t imagine living with a boy without a mother since the age of 2 and not loving and bonding with him deeply. It’s cruel that he isolated her like that,” added another.

“You need to talk to him more, maybe take him to a counselor and try to find out what else happened. I guarantee he’s heard the term ‘my kids’ against him many times.”